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  • Clinging too long to a sour relationship

    The first time Talia met Ike, he was putting down his ex-girlfriend Dakota. It was last summer at a party. From what Talia could make out, Dakota had dumped Ike one time too many and this time he had really had it. Now Talia, who’s …Read More

  • When they move out but leave something behind

    In the immortal words of Neil Sedaka, “Breaking up is hard to do.” There’s the emotional pain to deal with, of course, that constant throbbing pain in the heart. But there are physical reminders, too. The dirty sock under the bed. The toothbrush in the …Read More

  • She almost left a good man

    The only problem with Karl was that he was completely self-absorbed and totally unable to commit. Other than that, he was perfect. He was Swiss with a Ph.D. He had a sexy accent and was extremely handsome and bright. Cassie loved him. Except she couldn’t …Read More

  • She said she needed more space, and they drifted apart

    Two years have passed since the woman of Chad’s dreams told him she probably wasn’t. She needed space, she said. “Space,” as everyone knows, is a euphemism for “I want to date other people.” Sometimes it’s a euphemism for “I don’t want to date you …Read More

  • Didn’t realize what he had until he lost her

    Aaron met Erica on the rebound. He was coming off a hold-on-to-your hat affair with Noelle, a flashy lady with a Jaguar, a 2 million dollar apartment and a husband. A husband who was frequently out of town and when he wasn’t, he was pursuing …Read More

  • She almost let the right one get away

    Mia was married at 23 to a man who abused her physically and emotionally. She wasn’t sure which was worse. She honestly believed she couldn’t do any better in life. She believed everything her husband told her — which was that she deserved everything he …Read More

  • Fateful flight sends her life in a new direction

    Rose and Jake were in the latest “semi-on” phase of an on-again, off-again relationship that had been hanging on for years. It took a four-hour plane ride to show her how off it actually was. “We’d been dating for probably four or five years and …Read More

  • Mr. Wrong steers her to Mr. Right

    Traci seemed to have a sixth sense for finding men who treated her badly, and now it was starting to look like Joe was another one. The whole summer between their junior and senior years in college, he made excuses about why he couldn’t see …Read More

  • May-December romance flames out

    Vicky was 42, a human services specialist for the government, when she discovered Ian, 29, a bank officer.

  • It took time, but she finally figured out he was the one

    Jessica was involved in one of those “Is this a romance or are we really just friends?” situations. She was in dental school at the time, and she hung out with a group of about 10 students, all future dentists, doctors and lawyers. They’d go …Read More

  • Flat tire, miserable date and true love

    Today we hear from DEVON and SUZANNE, who opine on the nature of love and runny noses . . . — DEVON: “Why is it that first loves die such a long, horrible death? I was 17 when we met; he was 20. We had …Read More

  • Single folks: All you need is one good pickup line

    Ivy has been on the receiving end of some of the absolute worst lines ever. And also the single best one ever spoken.

    When opposites attract and it works

    “Has anyone ever told you you look exactly like Demi Moore?” When Chelsea heard that line, she just about lost it. She was at a singles dance, an experience she found slightly more revolting than a freshman mixer. But Chelsea had just moved to the …

    Tales from the Front: When shopping, you never know what’s in store

    Next time you’re shopping in a department store, look around you. You’re standing in the middle of 21st century “Peyton Place”! Mattie was a salesperson in men’s fragrances. She and a group of employees, men and women, would hang out together. They had lunch together, …

    Tales from the Front: He got quite an education in night school

    You can learn a lot in night school. Luke learned what not to do — never, ever — when you meet someone you like. Luke was immediately attracted to Brinn, another student in his adult education class. He says she had “a wholesome Irish face, …

    Tales from the Front: They do bring her flowers

    There are flowers and there are flowers. And the day that Riley got a dozen long-stemmed red roses from Cody with a card saying “Just because I love you,” and from Arnie a pathetic bunch of semi-wilted grocery store carnations, she realized there are men …