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Apple didn’t fall far from the cheating tree
Certain rules have to be followed or things go haywire. One is that parents have to be the parents and children must be allowed to be children. Children are not supposed to be their parent’s friend or, worse, their confidant or, worse, their confessor. That …Read More
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After hip surgery, he gets dumped
DEAR CHERYL: I was lying in bed in a rehabilitation facility after getting my first hip replacement when I was served a summons for divorce. This was after 31 years of marriage. I tried everything I could think of to get her to change her …Read More
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Most readers go easy on the cougar
If The Cougar Fits is the 44-year-old who’s getting divorced and interested in dating guys in their 20s. She doesn’t want a serious relationship with them or sex. I gave her my opinion. Here are yours:
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The cougar bites back
What happens in Cartagena, Colombia, stays in Cartagena, Colombia. Except when it doesn’t. Apparently, some married Secret Service agents had a motto: “Wheels up, rings off.” Which makes me wonder: Is fooling around when you’re on the road cheating? What do you think? Now back …
Sometimes one bad move tells you the relationship won’t work
How did you know your relationship was over? Did she send you a text? Did he leave you a voice mail? Did he unfriend you? Or did you know it was over when . . .
In 6th marriage, Molly finds a happy ending
On Tuesday we met Molly. She’d been sexually abused by her brother and father, had briefly worked as a prostitute and was divorced four times. A nervous breakdown after her last divorce landed her in a psychiatric hospital. That’s where she says she learned about …
How little girl grew to be a six-time wife
Did you ever meet someone who was so messed up you wondered, “What happened to them? How did they get that way?” Molly says she’s never been adequately diagnosed, but she guesses she was “developmentally slow” or maybe had a “touch of autism.” That was the least of her problems. She was sexually abused by her older brother and father.
Can cougar date without doing the deed?
DEAR CHERYL: I’m in the process of filing for divorce from my husband (he’s controlling and immature), and I’m discovering the girl I used to be. It almost feels like I’m picking up where I left off, at age 25, about to get married. I’ve …
Spreading disease? Baby daddy? Cheater? You’re a slut
I’m beginning to think that like beauty, slutiness is in the eye of the beholder.
When the first turns to the last
Some non-judgmental people believe that everyone deserves a second chance. Even if a first date is a total disaster, they’ll hang in there for one more. But even they have their limits. But here are times when you’ve said, “I knew I’d there’d never be …
She feels pretty, oh so pretty!
Today’s column is about women who prey on married men and daughters who avoid their parents’ mistakes: LEANN: I used to know a woman who’d been the victim of incest for several years. She rationalized it by convincing herself that it only happened because she …
After open marriage, years of casual sex, man embraces monogamy
Children, gather ’round. If your parents or grandparents came of age in the ’60s, they might not always have been the old fuddy-duddies they are today. They may have indulged in the very behavior they’ve warned you about. Jerry was in college during the ’60s. …
300 sex partners in 2 years of college
DEAR CHERYL: In my freshman year of college, my roommate and I started discussing sex. We both liked to party, and we bet on who could get the most guys in a year. I know, very immature, but we were young. To make a long …
And I am outta here!
Have you ever been on a first date when it hits you: I could be home, wearing sweats, eating Häagen-Dazs’ Chunky Monkey out of the container and watching “Mad Men?” Marla and Tracee know that feeling. Marla met Jayson at a “Parents without Partners” dance …
All he had to do was ask
I’m sorry; am I missing something? I always thought a proposal was really just a pro forma question. At a certain point in a relationship, both parties know they are going to get married. There are details to work out — where, when, how — …
First time rarely best
The first time. We invest so much energy thinking about who it’s going to be with, what it’s going to be like, and how we’ll feel afterward that it’s no wonder that it rarely lives up to the hype. KAREN: One month after I turned …
That unmagic first-date moment
There’s sometimes a moment during a first date — it may be at the front door when you see who you’re going to be spending the next few hours with, it might be as the waiter is taking your order, it might be in the …
Sins of parents haunt the children
For Lawrence, the man you met in Monday’s column, abuse and abandonment have been a part of life since his birth. The patterns continue in his third marriage to Hettie. As Lawrence got to know her, he realized she had no friends and trusted no …
Generations of abuse
Are the sins of the fathers (and mothers) visited upon the sons (and daughters)? In the case of Lawrence and his wives, it appears so. Lawrence says he never knew his father. “I’m sure my mother married him to get away from home. She was …
Who’s a slut? Depends on definition
Sluts have certainly been in the news lately. Rush Limbaugh lost more than 40 sponsors for calling a young woman a “slut” because she wanted her health insurance to cover birth control. Who’s a slut, anyway? Here are your thoughts: JOHN: Sluts? Is this the …
