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Can a woman cure her ex-husband’s mid-life crisis

Dear Cheryl, My husband of 24 years and I divorced six weeks ago, with a decent degree of civility and warm feelings. Last week, much to my surprise, he informed me and our twenty-year-old daughter, that he’s getting married in two weeks to a woman …

  • Endless relationship going nowhere

    Sometimes you don’t get the whole pie. Sometimes you don’t even get a full slice. Sometimes the only thing on your plate is a couple of crumbs and you just have to make do. Liam met Madison in a bar. He was 34 at the …Read More

  • Headline goes here and here

    Sometimes you can sum up a relationship in just a sentence or two. Here are some of those sentences . . . ◆ “After my divorce I lost 10 pounds, bought new clothes and had a make-over. A co-worker said, ‘Looks like the property’s back …Read More

  • Widower finally realizes, he was The Other Man

    Jack was The Other Man. He was a widower and he found himself heavily involved with a very married woman. “It’s one of those rarely acknowledged situations,” says the 49-year-old CPA. “You always hear about The Other Woman, but you don’t hear much about men …

    He wants old married life back, not new single one

    When Dave’s wife of 27 years left, his friends told him he was in for the time of his life. He was a highly eligible bachelor. Women, they told him, were going to fall into his lap and into his bed. But the truth of …

    You learn a lot dining on a date

    Where did the first caveman take the first cavewoman on their first date? It must have been to dinner— maybe a nice mastodon steak with a side of ferns. Eating and dating have always gone together. JESSA: I’ve got eating in a restaurant when I’m …

    Sometimes even the savviest dater falls for a line

    You’d think if you met a man on J-Date, he’d be Jewish. If you met a woman on Christian Mingle, she’d be Christian. If you met a man at a singles event, he’d be single. Lucy was at a singles dance, being hassled by what …

    Romantic vacation took a bad turn south

    For the first few days at least, the vacation was shaping up as a Rocky Mountain high. Travis flew to Denver with Ava, his girlfriend for six glorious months. The trip was one of those wonderful, spontaneous things in life. Let’s go someplace. Where? Denver! …

    She cheated, he cheated — now what?

    Dear Cheryl: I have a problem, and I probably know exactly what you’re going to say, but here I go anyway. Two and a half years ago I cheated on my boyfriend Chance with a married man I worked with. Chance and I had been …

    Sometimes a simple marriage proposal is best

    People make such a big deal out of proposals. I’ve heard of “Will you marry me?” in skywriting. Rings baked into cakes. Strolling violinists. But sometimes, a simple “Waddaya think?” works just fine ...

    What he might first need is date with therapist

    Two men find dating has a lot of challenges.

    Love springs up in unlikeliest place

    Long and winding path to Mr. Right

    Maggie is 5 feet 6 and 245 pounds, down from her personal high of 298 pounds. She calls herself “Rubenesque” in her online profiles. Even so, men frequently are not prepared for her. She and Dex met online, starting emailing and had a warm, friendly …

    Sometimes sign is clear that relationship is over

    I just read a survey that said that 22 percent of people have been dumped on Valentine’s Day. Does Hallmark make a card that says, “Roses are red/Violets are blue/Happy Valentine’s Day/I’m over you.” Here are some of the other ways you’ve learned it was …

    She’s tired of dating fixer-uppers

    You know how some women love a project? A closet to do- over. A friend to make-over. A bathroom to remodel. Well, Olivia was one of those non-stop do-it-yourselfers. But it her case, the project wasn’t a room or a house. It was men. “I …

    Playing mom didn’t make her his wife

    It’s one thing to fall in love with an older man. It’s another to fall in love with his kids, too. When Ava was a 21-year-old college student, she became involved with Derrick, a 37-year-old engineer with two kids. One minute she was struggling with …

    Three decades of comments sum up relationships

    I’ve culled nearly 30 years of “Tales from the Front” columns to find those comments that really seem to sum up what relationships are all about . . . “He can call me in the middle of the night, come over at 3 a.m., tell …